Doris Emily Lauder

Doris Emily Lauder, 87, of Piermont, NY, passed away at home on August 15, 2020 surrounded by her family.  Left to honor and remember her are three daughters, Lynn Garcia, Cindy Lauder, Diane Shovlin and her husband, Terry.  Adored by the grandchildren she loved, “Gram” leaves behind Kelly, David, Christina, Charles, John, Jennifer, Julie, Daniel, his wife, Abby, and their son, Colby.     

Doris is the daughter of the late John and Amelia Dapper, and sister of the late John Dapper.  She was married to her high school sweetheart and the love of her life, David W. Lauder, for 42 years until his passing in 1996.  Doris always referred to herself as a “Jersey Girl.”  Formerly of Dumont, Oradell, and River Vale, she was an honor student at Dumont High School, and co-captain of the cheerleading squad.  For 56 years, she was chairperson of her high school reunion committee.  Her outgoing personality and generous nature won her friends for a lifetime, whom she has cherished since childhood. 

Mom lived life to the fullest.  She traveled extensively, and made new friends wherever she went.  Until her illness last year, she had been a volunteer for many years at what was originally Pascack Valley Hospital’s Thrift Shop, as well as being an active member of the Piermont Seniors.  Since moving to her condo in 2010, Mom became the “pet sitter” in her building.  She thoroughly enjoyed spending time with her four legged friends.  Mom also enjoyed playing  cornhole, board and card games with family and friends.  She was quite skilled at Rummikub, winning most games, even beating her grandchildren. 

Mom was the best house guest, with more energy than most.  If something needed mending, cleaning or organizing, it was done before she left.  Our friends would ask if they could borrow her!  Whatever you needed, Mom always had a spare.  Whenever you needed her, she was always there to help.  Mom was central to our family, and content to be surrounded by those she loved.  Our hearts are sore.  We miss her more each day.          

 A funeral mass will be celebrated on Friday at 11:00 AM at Our Lady of the Sacred Heart RC Church, Tappan, NY, with interment to follow at George Washington Memorial Park, Paramus, NJ.  In lieu of flowers, the family would appreciate donations to her grandson’s foundation,, or Tomorrows Children’s Fund at Hackensack Medical Center


  1. We met your mom soon after she became a Harbor Cove resident. Not only was she our dog’s frequent “sitter”,but also a good friend as well. We will surely miss her.Karen & Norman Passman

  2. To all the Lauder Family,
    Know my heart, thoughts & prayers are with all of you. . One special lady, and a great couple. Know she will always be with all of you in your hearts along with your dad. They are now together. With Deepest Sympathy Pat

  3. To the Lauder children and grandchildren;

    It was my privilege to know both Doris and Dave since the 80’s when Dave engaged me to assist him in some business matters and thereafter planning their estate. Dave was an avid hunter, and, when he discovered I was as well, the bond was struck. It was always a pleasure hearing from both for they were two of the nicest people its been my privilege to know. The world is a lesser place without them in it. I understand and sympathize with your loss and will remember both in my prayers.


  4. Thank you Norman & Karen. Your friendship meant the world to her. Thanks for your continued concern during her illness – it meant so much. She will be dearly missed.

  5. So sorry for your loss, her memory will be carried on by those who loved her. With deep faith, we will all be together again.

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